At 72, and committed to living a life I love, I've been reflecting on how easy it is to let outside conditions influence the decisions we make about what we do in our lives.
How many times have you decided to not do something because of conditions around you? For example, what you think someone your age can’t or shouldn’t do, or not investing in yourself because money should be saved, or waiting for success to be guaranteed before venturing ahead.
We all do this. For many of us it is habit we developed to help us make decisions. More than ever in your life, it is important to pause and decide if the decision to not do something is based what is really true.
When we were younger we may have postponed things we wanted to do because …
How many things that you desired did you put off and not do at all because the conditions of your life were more important?
So, now it is likely you have developed a new set of conditions that may keep you from living the full and vital life that is possible for you. Now is the time for us to live the life we truly love, enjoy every minute and leave the legacy we want.
I had to break through my ‘because’ thinking to discover that someone past sixty CAN learn a new sport. When I first joined a Dragon Boat team, I faced my personal dragons of not being good enough or strong enough to even be wanted on the boat. Well guess what? I am good enough! The pain of not being happy finally moved me past the thinking that I could not start a business because I was too old. I did and I am having the best time of my life.
Why did I let this limited thinking get in the way of living fully? Because I bought into the messaging and assumptions about our age group that permeate our society. As a generation of women, we are here to change that.
Is there something that you would love, but don’t pursue it, BECAUSE…
Anytime you find yourself thinking ‘I should or I can’t….because, because, BECAUSE,” press pause and interrupt that BECAUSE. Is it true…really?
Here is the magic key: Change your thinking to focus on what is possible. For example:
A good example is when I retired. I thought I should have this really safe way to make money because I should not risk anything at my age. I ended up doing something that was not bringing me joy, but it was safe. I really did not enjoy my life. What I was doing had no heart, when this phase of life can be the most free and energizing time of our entire lives!
Realizing living this life with no heart was not what I wanted for the next decades of life, I fixed it. I asked myself what could I do that did not risk everything – and I began to build a business one step at a time. Let me confess, that what I thought was at risk really was not at all. It was just a conditioned excuse to stay safe.
I invite you to do the same and take that step that you have been putting off, avoiding, talking yourself out of, or whatever mechanism you choose to play safe.
Here are some ideas to get you started.
Especially after 60, it is important that the life we are creating brings us joy, fulfillment and a sense that we continue to matter. This is truly the time to live from our heart and not from the conditions we think are in control. You are more than your conditions
Have you not done something based on the “I can’t because” thinking?
I would love to hear what you might create if you didn't buy into limiting conditions.
What opportunities may become truly possible in your life? Perhaps you have already challenged yourself to step beyond what you thought were your limits. Share that story to inspire others! You are enough; you deserve a full life that you love.
Originally published in https://sixtyandme.com/because-thinking/