Work Hard - Retire Hard

meaning purpose retirment Dec 20, 2022

This was first published in Sixty and Me at  DECEMBER 06, 2022 LIFESTYLE 

Remember, this is about embracing YOUR purpose and sense of satisfaction with life. 

Many of us grew up in an era where the accepted approach to life was to work really hard to be successful at our chosen role and take care of responsibilities. Then, like magic, at 65 we get to stop and make up for all the “fun” we put off and take the relaxation we deserve. My parents did that, but it really didn’t turn out as they imagined. I thought that is what I was going to do. Not anymore.

Let’s unpack this.


The World Has Changed

In western cultures we are living longer and retiring earlier than in the past. If we stop working at 65, we are likely to have a reasonably healthy 20-30 years to go! That is why we call this the third phase of life… it literally can be 1/3 of your life.

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True Comfort


First published in SixtyandMe on OCTOBER 31, 2022 MINDSET

One of the blessings for many of us in our 60s and beyond is living a comfortable life. This does not imply riches. It means we have found a way to have ‘enough’. We have given our time to our work/profession and family. Now is our time to relax and enjoy life. We want to enjoy our comfort. We deserve to enjoy comfort.

Still, for many women there can be a yearning or dissatisfaction lurking just under the surface.

In my experience, these women are drawn to the idea of enriching and creating more in their lives. They sense possibility and are curious. Yet, the belief that change in their lives will be work and disrupt the comfort they have crafted stops them from taking action. Up until now, this has puzzled me.


The Lure of Comfort

Now that I have married my love, I feel full. Recently, I have faced my own complacency...

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Uncategorized Oct 20, 2022



Italians use the term speranza-certezza, offering an expansion to how we might use only the word hope, or perhaps intention or faith. It means to hold hope and certainty at the same time. Think about it… this is a powerful pairing of ideas that transforms a wish into creation.

I learned about this term from a wonderful Italian artist, Barbara Sbrocca, who interviewed me for her love and separations project, Baci Sospesi. She said that I had speranza-certezza when I decided for love in my life. 


Barbara uses the interviews to inform her art and to provide input for anyone researching or exploring love in their life, work or creativity. Have fun exploring!

Have you ever hoped to become more fit or to learn a new skill? Maybe you hope to fall in love, as I did for so many years. The difference in...

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Your Gratitude Tree

Uncategorized Aug 07, 2022


First Published in SixtyandMe JULY 23, 2022 

We all know that feeling grateful feels good. Right? It is more than that! We care about aging well, with vitality and wellness. Well, gratitude can play a big part in that.

According to Positive Psychology, research shows that benefits of gratitude for us include:

  • increased happiness and positive mood
  • more satisfaction with life
  • less materialism
  • less likely to experience burnout
  • better physical health
  • better sleep
  • less fatigue
  • lower levels of cellular inflammation
  • greater resiliency
  • encourages the development of patience, humility, and wisdom

How can you make gratitude a part of your life?

Gratitude as an Everyday Practice

I am sure you have read about keeping a gratitude journal. It is a wonderful and beneficial practice. If you are anything like me, the consistent journaling will last less than a week! So, what can we do to make gratitude a part of our everyday life?

Eckhart Tolle says...

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Embracing Change

Uncategorized Jun 11, 2022



Change, even if creating something you truly desire, can be challenging. Why in the world would anyone, especially when in your 70s, choose to go through change? Well, growing and learning are a type of change; growing and learning are essential for well-being and longevity.

Feelings of vitality, of aliveness, arise from embracing change. The real question is why in the world would someone in the seventh decade of life (and beyond) NOT choose change?

Change can happen to us and around us – health issues, someone dying, kids moving, etc. These are the kinds of change that are a natural part of life’s ebb and flow. We are called on to accept what is and to care for ourselves as we navigate them.

Then, there is change that you decide for. Reflecting on what we want, we may feel resolve, hope, desire, and often have a vision. You might decide to get more...

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The Galapagos - Still a Love Story!

engagement love travel Apr 11, 2022


BY ARDITH BOWMAN MARCH 27, 2022 First published in SixtyandMe.

The Galapagos trip turned out to be the consummation of the Love Story article series I wrote for Sixty and Me, which covered self-love, love for friends, and mature love.

This article will describe a little about the adventure as well as the Valentine’s marriage proposal.

Spoiler alert: I said “Yes.”

Getting There

It was a long day! I flew from the west coast in the US. Most flights connect through Panama, a delightful airport. Then it is on to Guayaquil, Ecuador. If you make the same trip, I recommend spending a day there if you can. It is the largest city in Ecuador. Enjoy walking the Malecon along the Guayas River and find a good place to eat. You will enjoy the street performers and Ecuadorian people.

Then on to the Galapagos, usually using LATAM airlines. It is a two-hour flight.


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Your Love Story - Mature Love

intimacy love romance Feb 28, 2022


BY ARDITH BOWMAN FEBRUARY 13, 2022 First published at 

Finally, we arrive at truly intimate committed love as the third area of bringing love into your life. Our journey to expand and deepen love in life has taken us from self-love to heart-based friendships. Now we will consider committed, intimate relationships.

Notice that in the below exploration of committed intimacy, does not need to include romance. These healthy, deep relationships can exist without a romantic aspect. Still, if you are looking for romance, certainly committed intimacy should be expressed in the love you are seeking.

If you are in an established relationship, consider what it might mean to deepen it and fall in love all over again.

What Is an Intimate Committed Relationship?

Intimacy implies that you, as a mate/lover/companion, are truly authentic and vulnerable with your partner; your...

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Be a Friend

friendship love Feb 20, 2022


Originally published at

This is the second of three articles to help us create more love in life. A life filled with love vibes will help keep you healthy and happy. Spread the love.

We are all familiar with the adage, “If you want a friend, be a friend.” I am living proof that it is true! The second step I took on my journey into love was to mindfully nurture and expand my circle of woman-friends. Remember, this is after spending time learning to love me… the real me.

Since the last article about the value of self-love, you have tuned into loving yourself. Hopefully, you have found some ways for your self-love to flourish. Know that others recognize the energy of self-love and that it is attractive. Others are drawn to it. With it you are more available for friendship.

What Is the State of Your Friend Love?

If you are anything like me when...

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Begin with Self-love

Uncategorized Feb 08, 2022


This is the first of three articles to help us create more love in life – healing, calming, joyous, revitalizing love. After all, we are getting ready for Valentine’s Day! This was first published in Sixtyandme

According to Harvard Health, social connections and support can improve health and increase longevity. Of course, we enjoy being in good relationships, but did you know they can influence our health just as sleeping and eating well?

Clearly, there is value in ensuring we are happy and complete on the relationship front. Where to begin?

Love Is a Three-legged Stool

We are defining ‘love’ broadly – love for yourself, love in close personal relationships, and intimate relationships such as romance.

Each is an essential component of a life rich in relationships and love. We will explore each in the order of how...

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"So Now What?"

Uncategorized Jan 25, 2022

Originally published at



In earlier stages of life – adolescence, young adult, midlife – our life focus usually is prescribed by society and family values. Thus, we generally know what is expected of us. For example, upon graduation from high school, we go on for more education/training/apprenticeship.

Admittedly, some of us may have been rebels, but in the end, most of us followed the norms, albeit stretching those norms just a bit as our generation has been known to do.

 Then, we arrive at our 60s and 70s and face some of the most momentous transitions of life, such as children leaving home, divorce or loss of a spouse, and retirement. What do we have to turn to for guidance? As one woman said, “(it) feels like nothing else is left in life. So, now what?”

There is little if any...

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